EVERYDAY VALENTINES: A LOVE NOTE TO OUR MODERN MARRIAGE

Confession: My husband and I don't really celebrate Valentine's Day.   I have to warn you, this is about to get personal.  But I feel like this little glimpse into our lives as entrepreneurs, as husband and wife, and as parents intersect in ways that are inescapable.

Some people may find that weird that we don't make a big deal out of the big "V-Day", but it's not because we are against commercial holidays or lack any sentimentality.  Our lives are crazy busy the vast majority of the time.  Photography doesn't always happen during the 9am-5pm window and February is a particularly deadline-heavy period for us.  We always get each other a card, always say "Happy Valentine's Day", but going out usually isn't an option for us during this time of year.  I am simply thankful for the little things that we can do for each other each day - our everyday valentines.

My husband David is the master of making someone feel special.  He has an uncanny memory when it comes to the accomplishments of others, he celebrates your successes even if you barely know him, he is genuinely interested in what you have to say - regardless of how trivial.  This tendency doesn't end with our clients.  If you have ever been to our home or even been in my office at the studio, there is one thing that you will always see:  love notes. 

David has always been a prolific note writer.  Our schedules often do not line up. He leaves earlier than me, works later than I do.  We are constantly crossing paths during the day or hardly see each other at all.  He is out and about for 70-80 hours over 6 (sometimes 7) days a week.  He jokes that he spends more time with the families of others more than his own.  He takes on that role so that I can be home with our son as much as our work schedule can allow. I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I am and how selfless he is. 

Our ebb and flow results in me waking up to little notes on the kitchen counter, finding post-it notes on my desk when I arrive at work, coming home to a note along with flowers or my favorite candy (or both).  I ask myself constantly what I do that makes me so lucky to have him as my partner in life.

More often than not, the notes he leaves for me at work are words of encouragement.  Words to lift me up when I am feeling overwhelmed or I am having a rough day.  Like so many creative professionals, I have moments where I doubt myself and my abilities.  Doubt my relevance.  Doubt whether the work I am doing means anything to anyone but me.  David knows about my inner monologue, as he is one of the few that has seen me at my worst.  And when I put up a wall of strength in the presence of others, I can show what is going on inside to David.  He knows how to get me back on track when I need an extra push.

All blubbering aside, couples that work together know how hard it can be.  It is hard to separate the business from the personal.  But I am thankful that we share everything in real time with each other.  We are together for each victory and hardship - we are going through it at the same time!  He is my favorite collaborator, my honest critic, my sounding board, my therapist, my work husband AND home husband.  He is the best partner in every scenario.

So basically, I don't feel like I am missing anything by not doing the whole Valentine's Day schtick.  I get Valentine's Day every day because of my forever Valentine.  I love you, David McGregor.  I am so thankful for you.  

I'm not crying.  You're crying,  ;)